Keeping the Spark Alive When You Are Apart

These are strange times that we are living in. Couples who don’t co-habit are forced to be apart for weeks on end. There are also people who have been chatting online to strangers with a view to meeting up, who have now had to put their plans on hold. I am very lucky to be living with my partner during these crazy times, I would miss him so much if we couldn’t be together. I thought it might be useful to share some tips on how to keep the spark alive for couples who are apart.

Start with the little things

I believe that it’s the small daily connections that keep the spark alive. Whilst you can’t be together to hug or kiss each other, you can still text ‘good morning’ and ‘good night’ to each other every day. If your partner tells you something that they are going to do that day, make sure you remember to ask them about it. These little things make a world of difference.

Play games online together

With lots of us finding ourselves with more free time these days, instead of wasting hours mindlessly browsing your phone, you could instead play games over the internet with your partner. There are so many games on the app store that allow you to play online with someone else, such as Scrabble. There are even games where you win real money so that’s a double win. Time interacting with your partner whilst making money, what could be better? Another option is if you are both lucky enough to have the same games console, you could find a two player game to play on that instead.

Use Whatsapp/Zoom/Facetime to have video chats

Schedule a call every other day – keep it exciting by doing a weekly pub quiz together, or dressing up in your finest gear and having a virtual date night.

Speaking of video chats online, for those who are spending this period of isolation single and are looking to connect with someone to have some fun, there are sites like Edinburgh Sex Site to get chatting with like-minded people. Whilst we can’t physically meet up with strangers right now, it’s good to be able to chat with people now in the hope that it turns into a real life encounter in the future. Make sure you also check out if you are in that area.

Send old fashioned post

Is there anything more lovely than receiving a letter in the post? It is so rare to get a hand-written letter these days. I can’t think of a better way to keep the spark alive then by sending your loved one a physical letter – even better if they don’t know about it in advance. Why not send them a little gift too? It doesn’t need to be anything fancy, even a small bar of chocolate shows how much you care.

Plan something fun

I think looking ahead to fun things in the future is a great way to keep the spark alive. Why not plan a holiday for Summer 2020. You’ll have great fun planning it – I always think it’s good to start by discussing what each partner wants out of a holiday. If one of you loves cities and the other loves beaches then maybe a trip to Barcelona might be a great compromise?


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